The problem was both my versions of 10 on different computers were giving me the message of the license not permitting this version, if I hit proceed then it alters the database and I can’t export. Here’s how I solved it
Uninstall 10, use regedit to delete database location.reinstall 10, error message about license, hit proceed since it will alter the default new database, when it opens change db to correct one and restart, skip what i can about license and such and don’t hit proceed, export EML, Later export contacts, settings, etc. The settings wouldn’t import since it was from version 10, so I opened a version 9 on a different computer and exported them. it all worked. I had to merge the mail folders and clean that up, but it finally works really well